|“If I was handed this card before I abused,
I’d probably walk right away.”
Abuser in Treatment
Here’s why: First, when you rely solely on your child to speak up to an abuser or potential abuser, you’re putting the burden of responsibility on your children for keeping themselves safe, when it’s actually a parent’s responsibility. Second, when you have the courage to talk with a substitute caregiver (teacher, coach, nanny, tutor, etc.), you’re letting them know that you are paying attention. And based on my conversations with child sexual abusers, a substitute caregiver, who is a sexual abuser, is less inclined to groom a child whose parent says, “May I tell you about my child’s body-safety rules?”
“If I was handed this card before I abused, I’d probably walk right away.”
“We had one of the cards sitting on the counter when we had a new babysitter over and it led us into a great conversation about our body-safety practices.”
“This card makes it easier to start conversations and in two weeks I’ve gone from having 30% of my caregivers on our prevention team to 50%!”
Can you imagine if every parent walked up to their kid's coach and handed them this card. Oh my gosh, it would be life changing!
Yes, parents would be 1. Inviting their children's caregivers to be part if their prevention team to keep their kids safe and 2. letting the world know their child is off limits!