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"Off Limits: A Parent's Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse"

“A Must-Read Parenting Book!"

Featuring a foreword by Marilyn Van Derbur, former Miss America 1957, incest survivor, and motivational speaker

Off Limits is written by two leading sexual assault prevention specialists, Sandy K. Wurtele, Ph.D. and Feather Berkower, MSW, of Parenting Safe Children.

Child sexual assault can be prevented.Parents are the front line.

This is the unwavering message of hope and empowerment underlying every page of Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse – quite possibly the most important book you will ever read as a parent.

Off Limits Book CoverThe book will empower you with information on age-appropriate sexual development, body-safety rules, sample language for talking with children and teens about body-safety, screening questions for caregivers, and more. It also includes information on how to handle a disclosure when a child has been sexually assaulted or is assaulting another child.

To ship outside the United States, to order more than three books, or to order three books AND three sets of conversation-starter cards at the same time, please email or call 303-931-5782 for shipping rates.

“Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe From Sexual Abuse has been a constant shoulder to lean on when I need a reminder about how to weave in body- safety language with my kids. I also refer to it prior to asking those crucial screening questions to our care providers. I love that I don’t have to memorize all of the empowering lessons I learned in the Parenting Safe Children workshop…I can just refer back to the book anytime. And I have done so many, many times!”
– Cary, Mom, CO

“Few books impact your life in a way to create lasting change; even fewer empower you to create lasting change in the life of someone else. A must-read!”
– Parent of Three

“Very informative. I regret not having read this information before raising my children. Children don’t always have the words to tell adults in their lives what is going on. We need more help like this to help them.”
– Debbie

“I attended the author’s workshop and then bought the book. I seriously think every parent needs to read this. It teaches body safety rules and our 3 year old already understands the body parts and what is appropriate and not appropriate touch. I can almost guarantee that after you read this book and work with your kid(s) on the body safety rules, they will no longer be targets for child predators.”
– H. Lippert

“The information in this book at first was hard to take in, but the more I read, the more empowered I became around raising my daughter to be “off limits” to sexual predators. To be able to teach your kids tools that will serve them in their entire life – safe, secure boundaries and healthy relationships – this is so valuable!! I realized how many of these skills I have had to learn as an adult, and what I wouldn’t give to have had adults around me who understood these concepts and taught me when I was a child.

If you have any contact with ANY children, please read this book and start the process of making ALL children off limits to sexual predators.”
– Jennifer L. Hardee

“This parenting book is about so much more than preventing sexual abuse. It is about empowering your children to follow their gut and instinct, teaching them about privacy and their bodies, and encouraging them to be their own best advocate.”
– Lisa Hall, M.A. Psychotherapist & Mother of 2 Boys

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Conversation-Starter Cards

What a fantastic tool; the ‘Conversation-Starter Card’ provides a clear path for discussions with caregivers.

Conversation Starter Cards

Inviting caregivers onto your prevention team just got easier!

With Parenting Safe Children (PSC) “Conversation-Starter Cards,” you can confidently initiate conversations about your child’s body safety with all caregivers. The front of the card offers language for starting a conversation about expectations, boundaries, and body-safety rules. There is even room on the front to write your name and number. The back of the card is for reference and gives facts about child sexual abuse and offers safety tips.

Carry the cards in your purse, car, pocket, or even fold a couple and put them in your wallet. 

Pull a card out when:

  • Your child has a play date and you want to align expectations with another parent about body safety.
  • You’re in a hurried situation and want to get some basics across.
  • You’re speaking with a nanny, school administrator, teacher, coach, or counselor, and want to make sure you’re on the same page.
  • You’ve attended a PSC workshop and want to share what you learned with a friend or family member.
  • Inviting caregivers onto your team is the cornerstone of prevention – and prevention starts with you!

“We had one of the cards sitting on the counter when we had a new babysitter over and it led us into a great conversation about our body-safety policies.”

“This card makes it easier to start conversations and in two weeks I’ve gone from having 30% of my caregivers on our Prevention Team™, to 50%!”

“The PSC ‘Conversation-Starter Card’ automatically makes it easier to bridge the conversation. Thank you.”

To keep your kids safe from sexual assault, you need to invite your child’s caregivers onto your Prevention Team™. Which means talking to them about the incredibly uncomfortable topic of child sexual assault.

Fortunately, Parenting Safe Children (PSC) “Conversation-Starter Cards” let you confidently talk about your child’s body-safety with all caregivers.

The front of the card offers language for starting a conversation about expectations, boundaries, and body-safety rules. The back of the card is for reference and gives facts about child sexual assault and safety tips.

Carry the cards in your purse, car, pocket, or even fold a couple and put them in your wallet!

Each pack contains 25 cards, packaged in a re-sealable bag. Instructions included.

To ship outside the United States, to order more than five sets of conversation-starter cards, or to order three books AND three sets of conversation-starter cards at the same time, please email or call 303-931-5782 for shipping rates.